Jill's web designer - tknathan.com - is visiting for the weekend (from NY). The site will hopefully have a few improvements by Monday. Stay Tuned to see what they are!
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Saturday, April 29, 2006
Wednesday, April 26, 2006
{ Health-Advice: Back Soon }
Jill has been under the weather - new advice will be back again soon!
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posted by SpillToJill at 8:11 PM
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Monday, April 24, 2006
{ Love-Advice: Moonlighting Mrs. }
3 weeks after i got married, I started cheating on the love of my life??? And almost 2 years later I'm still doing it. I love two men now. And I devoted a blog to it.
Dear Moonlighting Mrs.,
If your husband is/was the love of your life, why did you begin cheating? And why so soon after getting married?
One idea to the reason you have fallen in love with two men is that you have a fear of committment. This fear may be subconscious and therefore you are not aware of this. If this is the case, the affair may provide a sense of freedom - a thrill and excitement. The reason you may have a fear of committment may be due to being abandoned by a parental figure as a child (such as divorce, death, seperation, etc).
If you want this behaviour to stop - you must be true to yourself first. The only way to have a lasting marriage is to be honest with yourself and your husband. You may not be ready to tell him the truth, but what you are doing is showing him little respect.
Blogging is a great way to let go some of the different types of anxiety and frustration this situation may cause. Journaling is therapy in itself. It may also be wise to talk to someone (if you are not already doing this), such as a Counselor, Therapist, Religious Counselor (such as Priest, Rabbi, etc), and/or another professional who is trained to talk with people. If you have not ever been to a therapist (or other Professional), it may be frightening at first - but is worthwhile in the long run. It takes many sessions to really begin to understand yourself and actions with the help of a therapist.
My advice is to decide what you truly want, and then go after it. In doing this, do not disrespect others by lying or cheating - instead be honest with yourself and the others involved. It may hurt in the near future, but in the long run you will feel better.
Dear Moonlighting Mrs.,
If your husband is/was the love of your life, why did you begin cheating? And why so soon after getting married?
One idea to the reason you have fallen in love with two men is that you have a fear of committment. This fear may be subconscious and therefore you are not aware of this. If this is the case, the affair may provide a sense of freedom - a thrill and excitement. The reason you may have a fear of committment may be due to being abandoned by a parental figure as a child (such as divorce, death, seperation, etc).
If you want this behaviour to stop - you must be true to yourself first. The only way to have a lasting marriage is to be honest with yourself and your husband. You may not be ready to tell him the truth, but what you are doing is showing him little respect.
Blogging is a great way to let go some of the different types of anxiety and frustration this situation may cause. Journaling is therapy in itself. It may also be wise to talk to someone (if you are not already doing this), such as a Counselor, Therapist, Religious Counselor (such as Priest, Rabbi, etc), and/or another professional who is trained to talk with people. If you have not ever been to a therapist (or other Professional), it may be frightening at first - but is worthwhile in the long run. It takes many sessions to really begin to understand yourself and actions with the help of a therapist.
My advice is to decide what you truly want, and then go after it. In doing this, do not disrespect others by lying or cheating - instead be honest with yourself and the others involved. It may hurt in the near future, but in the long run you will feel better.
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posted by SpillToJill at 10:27 PM
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Sunday, April 23, 2006
{ Social-Advice: Inarticulate Speaker }
Dear Jill,
I recently decided to get orthodontic braces at the ripe old age of 28. The whole process has gone rather smoothly, up until recently. A bar was inserted in my mouth for the purpose of pushing my molars outward. The bar rests on the roof of my mouth and while the process is painless, it does effect my pronunciation. I find people asking me to repeat myself, as the bar does interfere with my tongue and therefore affects my speech. This leaves me feeling rather embarrassed at social gatherings and functions. My question is, should I explain the reason for my inarticulate speech or should I just do my best to communicate as clearly as I can for the time being?
Dear Inarticulate Speaker,
I would like to commend you on not letting age get in the way of a goal. I know it must be difficult to undergo a procedure that affects many aspects of your physical being.
In your situation, I think it best to attempt to communicate as clearly as possible. Articulate words, even if it does sound silly to you.
If you are finding that people you are speaking with are constantly asking you to repeat yourself - you can always try to use a joke to help them to understand. For example: "oh, don't mind me - I popped some marbles in my mouth earlier." (I apologize at my unfunny joke).
Good luck with the braces, and before you know it, you will have straight, beautiful teeth!
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posted by SpillToJill at 9:28 PM
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